Circle of Security

Circle of Security is a way of thinking about emotions and behaviours that can be used as a tool, a road map for parents and caregivers to connect and see the relationship with their children with more clarity.

It offers the opportunity to reflect about children attachment needs to better support the establishment of a secure relationship, where feelings can be shared. It also give Parents/Caregivers a chance to reflect and explore their struggles and them choose new ways of connecting. A secure attachment is essential to set the stage for positive outcomes, to allow children to explore, learn and relate.

Using Circle of Security concepts parents/caregivers will learn to identify underlying needs, understand what is behind the child behaviour which will give them the possibility to respond to the child real needs and be with their children in their emotions, instead of trying to stop them from feeling.

Circle of Security will assist parents/caregivers to:

• Improve parent’s understanding of their child’s social and emotional needs
• Support their child to manage emotions
• Enhance development of child’s self esteem
• Recognise the innate need and desire of their child to be secure

Being able to face emotions more effectively builds emotional resilience, deepens self-awareness and helps to strengthen relationships.

To nurture a secure relationship parents/caregivers are encouraged to:

• Be present and attentive to their child’s needs
• Notice when their child seeks connection and offer comfort
• Respond consistently, letting the child take the lead at their own pace
• Practice self-kindness and patience

Remember that is never too late, parents/caregivers don’t have to be perfect but good enough.

Marta Farias – Counsellor

Perth – Western Australia

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